Post-Turkey

While shaking out pumpkin pie crumbs from the tablecloth, retrieving grimy cocktail glasses mysteriously left behind the couch, and washing endless amounts of silverware, rubbermaid containers, and pots and pans, I think I figured something out today. Hosting holiday dinners has always left me with mixed feelings. While longing for the community of friends and family gathering in my home and enjoying my cooking, I have also felt an edgy resentment towards those same loved ones for the amount of work involved.

It truly is an exhausting and lonely exercise. Long treks through Safeway after work, lugging bags of cans and bottles and five-pound sacks of flour and sugar up the stairs to my apartment. Cooking and planning and cleaning for days. I'm barely able to get myself dressed and ready for visitors because of all the details that scream out at me.

It occurs to me that I am hanging on to a tradition that was born when people didn't live alone, but were part of a larger community that would take this chore on together. We all seem to want this traditional experience, but the way we live now (at least the way I live now) makes it an onerous task for one individual. It's just a thought I'm working on -- how to find the meaning and experience I long for within the current reality of my existence.
Then again, I do get to keep the leftovers.